It is the call every PAP (“potential adoptive parent”) holds their breath for.

It is the most memorable email ever.

It can be the day you become a parent.

It is the day your heart begins to ache for a real someone.

We went into our adoption believing we would wait 12-18 months for a refferal (a “match”). Imagine our surprise when a mere 5 1/2 months later we got “The Call”. I. was. amazed. Actually, I didn’t get the call. H did.

I had been at my volunteer job that morning. Before I got there, I got a text from H’s niece saying her (first) baby had been born. Throughout the morning I texted with her about that, getting all her news. When I got home, H was outside. He should have been at work.

He immediately told me we got “the call”, & started telling me how old she was, & the little info they told him…which I was totally OBLIVIOUS to! I had braced myself for a much longer wait, I was completely shocked! He told me that she had a beautiful name, but that he didn’t remember what it was (you know those Ethiopian names!). He said he was waiting outside for me to get home, because he didn’t want to open the email without me.

Oh. My. Goodness! Have you ever seen anything sweeter?? We were in love in a nano-second!

It was another 5 1/2 months before we could go meet her. What a wait!

Here she is on the day we met her

We had to wait:

  • 5 1/2 months for a referral
  • 5 1/2 months to travel
  • 7 weeks for an Embassey appointment

In all, that wait between trips was the tough one. Our origonal Embassey date was postponed. It turned out to be a good thing, because I got so sick at about the time I was scheduled to travel. But it was so hard waiting for that new appointment when I knew the little girl waiting in Africa.

Embassy Day:

Our travel group:


One Response to Referralversary

  1. Kelley says:

    What a great story! I’m so happy for you. I hope you share this story every year until everybody knows it by heart. And I will read it every year and smile.

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